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Planned Parenthood Shooting

I will start off by saying, I am pro-choice. I have never had an abortion but I know many people that have. Though I am unsure if I would have one or not, I not only respect their decision, but I appreciate having the option.

That being said, I do understand why people are pro-life. I do not agree with their mentality or their reasoning but I can understand if I were to walk in their shoes.

What I do not understand is this shooting that happened at Planned Parenthood in Colorado. I do not understand harming people to prove your point. I do not understand killing people because you are “pro-life”. That is an oxy-moron if I ever heard one.

I read this article today: Kansas PP incidents . A woman that worked at a Planned Parenthood in Kansas for three years wrote about the incidents that took place during that time.

I do not care if you are pro life or pro choice. If you are against or for something, if you have a strong, passionate belief in something; harming or killing people is not a way to make changes! Go to rally’s, protest peacefully, sign petitions, write to legislators, hang fliers, etc…etc…DO NOT, and I repeat, DO NOT hurt people! Hurting people does not cause positive change. You are making things worse.

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Find Brittany, Kovu, and Tigger a home!

Brittany is a beautiful, sweet, short haired, black cat. She is five years old. Brittany is very friendly and loving. I like to call her “Princess”.

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Kovu is a shy but sweet, two year old black cat. He loves getting pet.

He will rub his face all over you if you let him!

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Tigger is an adorable, short hair orange cat. He is relaxed and chill.

He loves to lie in his bed. Tigger is 8 years old.

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Brittany, Kovu, and Tigger are the best of friends. The trio cuddle together often. They have a strong bond and something very sad in common, Kovu, Brittany and Tigger have been in the shelter their entire lives.

None of these three cats have ever known the joy or comfort of their own home. Tigger, Brittany, and Kovu all came to the shelter as kittens and have never been adopted. The cats have never had their very own human friend. While Brittany, Kovu, and Tigger are the nicest, sweetest cats you can imagine, they often get overlooked because they are shy. Not only are Brittany and Kovu shy but they are also, older, and black. Because Brittany and Kovu are shy, they often get overlooked when potential adopters visit the cats at the shelter. Brittany and Kovu hang out in the background when all the other, outgoing, loud cats run up to people when they walk into the cat room. Tigger is old and shy. Many people pass him up for the young and playful kittens. Though beautiful, Tigger doesn’t stick out too much in comparison.

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Brittany, Kovu, and Tigger are located at Animal Care Council.

Address: 131 Washington Ave, Endicott, NY 13760

Phone:(607) 786-5740

http://www.animalcarecouncil.org/

Please help find Brittany, Kovu, and Tigger a home by passing this on.

And please remember #adoptdontshop and when you go into the shelter, remember our shy and older feline and canine friends. They deserve a home and love just as much as a younger, playful kitty or pup.

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That time I was harassed, cat called, stalked, “complimented”

Being a female, at almost any age, it is extremely common to be cat called and harassed by men. Though I have been harassed by men on the street more times than I can count, these are the memories that really stick out in my mind. I began writing them down and I will continue to write them down as it happens to me in the future. Many people say that cat calls are a compliment. I began getting cat called when I was thirteen. I was a child. Grown men on the street should not be “complimenting” a child. Even if many people do believe cat calls are compliments, some of the things that have happened to me are terrifying. I have been chased and groped on the street. Here are some of the times I have been “complimented”.

  • When I was 13 years old, I was hanging out at a friends house. We decided to go to my house. It was around 8pm and getting dark. My house was a ten block walk. We were walking and a group of about eight older teenagers/young adults were walking towards us. We couldn’t understand what they were saying but we knew they were talking about us. We both became uncomfortable and without vocalizing any sort of plan, we both turned around to walk in the opposite direction. That’s when we heard people running. We turned around and saw the group of boys were running toward us. We both started running. We passed our school so we ran into the court yard and through an opening in the fence. We ran the entire way to my house. They chased us for 3 blocks.
  • I used to walk to school everyday, to middle school and high school. When I was approximately 13 years old, a group of construction workers whistled at me and my friend. This happened everyday until we decided to take a different way to school.
  • I went to the park to play card games with three of my friends after school. A car pulled up to us and parked. The three men inside were yelling that we were hot and sexy, stuff like that. My friends and I were about 15 years old.
  • One day when I was walking home from school, a man yelled from across the street, “Hey! Smile, it will get better!” I was really confused because I wasn’t sad or depressed or anything. I was just walking home. I thought he was being nice and wasn’t particularly offended but this bothered me for days and I didn’t know why. I was 15 yrs old.
  • One day after school my friend and I took a nap at her house. We woke up around 6pm. We were starving. We decided to go to Burger King. We were both in sweat pants and oversized t-shirts. On our 5 block walk to Burger King, numerous men whistled at us and blew kisses at us. We were disgusted.
  • When I was 17 years old I was taking the bus to my best friend’s apartment. I sat next to the window. This man in his late 50’s sat next to me and started talking to me. He said he was a customer of mine at the Pharmacy where I was a cashier. He kept telling me I was cute and kept asking for my number. I repeatedly said no but he wouldn’t stop pressuring me to give him my number. I was trying to be polite. I didn’t want to be rude to a stranger that recognized me from where I worked. Also, I did not want to cause a commotion on the public city bus. After numerous times of giving my excuse that I don’t give out my number to strangers he said OK then you take my number then. I put his number in my phone just to get him to leave me alone then he kept telling me to text him so he would have my number. I still had over ten minutes on the bus and felt trapped, up against the window with him blocking the isle. I gave in and texted him. He texted me the second I got off the bus but I can’t remember what the text said. I remember being annoyed. I started getting calls and creepy text messages from him in the middle of the night. I would wake up around 3am from my phone buzzing from creepy messages from him saying he was thinking about me and wanted to see me. I told him to stop texting and calling me but he didn’t. I called my phone company to block his number.
  • My friend and I were at a bus stop waiting for the bus to come. We kept hearing a kissing sound and whistling. We couldn’t tell where it was coming from. We looked up and saw an older man leaning over the railing of the subway station. He was whistling and blowing kisses at us. We hid out of his sight behind the bus stop.
  • When I was 18 years old, I was walking to my boyfriend’s house at 8am. A fat, shirtless man about 50 years old, maybe older asked me for the time. I told him the time, then he grabbed his crotch, started rubbing it and said, “Do you want to come inside and have some fun?”
  • When I was 18, I worked as a waitress over summer vacation. One night I was waiting at the bus stop at midnight for a bus to get home from work. A man asked me for the time. I told him. He stayed standing next to me. I moved over a few feet to get some personal space but he moved next to me again. I pretended to walk over to read the schedule on the pole a few feet away. When I saw him walking toward me I decided to walk an avenue ahead to wait at the next bus stop. I heard him following me. When I turned around I saw him walking toward me. I walked faster, then he walked faster. I became very afraid and instinctively started running. The man ran after me. Without even thinking about it, I ran into the street into oncoming traffic. I crossed and turned the corner and hid in bushes. The man ran after me but he didn’t see me. From the bushes I could see him looking around. He walked out of my view. I waited a while to come out. I ended up walking home because I was too scared to go to the bus stop.
  • I was on phone one day walking to a bus stop. I was going home from my friend’s house. An older man, around 60 years old kept trying to talk to me. He was saying I was beautiful and asked me to sit next to him. I told him to leave me alone and that I was on the phone. He told me I was being rude and told me to hang up the phone. He wouldn’t stop harassing me. I had to walk away and wait at a different bus stop. I was about 19 years old.
  • I was sitting on the subway, waiting for my stop when I felt someone watching me. I looked around and saw a man staring at me. He was staring at me very intently. He didn’t take his eyes off of me. It was making me very uncomfortable and I felt intimidated.
  • When I was 21, I was at a bar with my friends. A guy came up behind me, grabbed me and pulled me toward him. I turned around, told him to let me go and shoved him off of me. He said, “I didn’t want to dance with you anyway, bitch.”
  • At the same bar, my friends and I were dancing. My friend that was facing two of us grabbed us by the arms and pulled us forward. We didn’t know, but their was a guy humping the air right behind us. It was directed at the two of us.
  • After class, I was standing at the bus stop talking on the phone, waiting to get back to my dorm. A bunch of teenagers walked past me, about six of them. One slapped my butt as he walked by. The rest of them were laughing hysterically. I cursed them out. They started throwing things at me like water bottles and food. I was 21 years old. I went to the campus police and they told me to wait at a different bus stop next time. 
  • When I was 21, I was walking less than a block home from a party with my friend that was a male. My friend, Steve walked into my building first. I was a few feet behind him. I walked into my building and three guys followed me in. They did not live in my building. When they saw Steve they turned around and ran out.
  • I was dancing at a club with my guy friend. While we were dancing, a guy grabbed my arm and told me to dance with him. My guy friend yelled at him and said we were dancing together, to leave us alone. The guy said, “I don’t care.”
  • I was at a bar with my friends. My girlfriend was in the bathroom. I was sitting at the bar waiting for her. A guy grabbed my arm and pulled me toward him. I tried to pull my arm away but he held it tightly and twisted it a little. I began punching and shoving him with my other arm. The guy was laughing. He didn’t let go until my guy friend saw this from afar and got in between us.
  • My friend and I were dancing together one night at a club. A guy came over and began dancing in between us. We backed up from him and tried to walk off together. The guy stayed in between us and wouldn’t let us near each other. We were pushing him and yelling at him but he just laughed. He tried to keep us apart and kept trying to dance on us. My friend ducked under his arm and we ran to the other end of the club.
  • One night when I was 26 my friends and I were leaving a bar. We were talking about our friend that left earlier because she was so drunk. As we were passing two men that were standing up against a building, I said, “She was so drunk she left her favorite water bottle there.” One of the men followed me and proceeded to mock me. In a whiny exaggerated voice he yelled, “Oh my goddddd, not her water bottle! She forgot her water bottle?”
  • When I was 27 years old, my girlfriends and I went out to a club to dance. We were dancing in a circle. A guy walked up to my friend and stuck his face up against my friend’s butt. My other friend pushed him away. We got him kicked out by a bouncer but within 15 minutes he was back in the club.

  • That same night, my friends and I were dancing together when a group of guys came over to us. Each of them put their arms around one of us. The guy that had his arm around my shoulder was holding on tight. I tried to wiggle free. He asked me if I wanted to dance. I said no. He kept saying, “come on, just dance with me. Why not?” I said that I didn’t want to and that I had a boyfriend. The guy accused me of lying. He kept asking me questions about my boyfriend like his name and where he lived. He asked why I was out without my boyfriend. I kept trying to push the guy away and telling him that I didn’t want to dance with him but he wouldn’t stop or let go of me. My two friends were having the same issue. I was finally successful in pushing him off of me. After a while of telling them to leave us alone, they finally walked away to another group of girls.
  • When I was crossing the street with some friends, a guy held out his arm as if to grab me. He said, “Hey, hey, hey honey. Hold up. Where you going?” Without thinking, I replied, “Away from you.”
  • Walking to the bus stop, a guy I was walking towards was looking at me. As I walked past him he said “Excuse me?” and tried to grab my arm. I twisted my body and swung my arm backwards out of his reach and kept walking.
  • I had to run to the mall to pick something up and my boyfriend had to go to the grocery store. After my errand I was waiting for him at our meeting spot. While I was standing there, two guys kept looking at me. One of them said, “Hey, waiting for your ride?” I replied “Yes.” The two guys kept looking at me. I was trying not to look their way but I could feel them watching me. A few minutes later the same guy asked, “Are you waiting for your boyfriend?” I didn’t answer. I pretended not to hear him. They walked a little closer which made me nervous. They kept staring at me and finally walked away after a few minutes.
  • When I was crossing the street a guy yelled, “Heyyyy baby!” at me from his car.
  • One day when I was walking to work, I was walking toward three men sitting on a stoop. One of them was staring me up and down. His eyes were completely locked on me. He did not look away. I felt uncomfortable passing them. One of the guys said, “Dude stop staring so hard.” The one that was staring at me looked me in the eye and said, “But I just cant help myself.”
  • When I was 28 years old, I walked out of my apartment to meet my friend at her car. Her car was parked on the corner of my block. On the opposite corner of my friend’s parked car, three construction workers yelled, “Wooooooooooooooo” at me from across the street.
  • When I was 27 I was at a club with my friends. My friends and I were walking to a different section. A man I was walking past grabbed my arm and said, “Hey, where are you going? I began screaming at him. I cursed him out and shoved him and told him not to touch me. His friends started yelling at me to calm down. I kept yelling that he grabbed me. They told me to relax. I yelled, “I will not fucking relax. Tell your friend not to fucking grab people.” My friends and I walked to a different section of the club. The group of guys followed us. We walked to a different section of the club. They group of guys followed us again. They wouldn’t leave us alone so we left the club.
  • I was walking down an aisle at CVS. An older man leaned into me, pushing his body up against me and whispered in my ear as I walked by him, “Gorgeousss.” It was very creepy and gave me the chills.
  • October, 2015: I was on my way to a job interview. I was outside of the agency when I got whistled at by three different men and a man in a car honked at me. These four incidents were all within ten minutes.
  • When I was walking home from work, three tweens were yelling to me from across the street. I had my head phones in. I ignored them but they just yelled louder. I took my head phones out, turned to them and yelled, “What?” That’s when the boys pulled their pants down to moon me. I crossed the street and began yelling at them and told them to get their parents. They told me their parents weren’t home and they apologized numerous times.
  • May, 2015: I was at a music festival with my boyfriend. We parted ways for a little while to get dinner. We wanted different things. I was walking to our meeting spot when a guy yelled, “Excuse me!” I ignored him. He continued, “Hello!…Hello!” I continued to ignore him. He yelled, “OK, well fuck you then!”
    • It wasn’t even five minutes later. I was sitting alone, waiting for my boyfriend. I was looking around, taking in all of the music and fun outfits. A guy walking past me says, “Don’t tell me you aren’t having fun.” I responded, “I am.” He insists, “Come on! Have fun!” I said again, “I am.”
  • June 1, 2015: I was walking home from work. I was less than one block from my apt. When an older man looks me up and down and says, “mmmm, hellooo!”
  • July 26th, 2015: When I was walking home from work, two men driving by were hanging out of the car window. They were yelling something but I couldn’t hear because I had my headphones in. The one in the back seat continued to laugh and hang out the window looking back at me as the car passed me.
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May is National Foster Care Month!

May is National Foster Care month! I have been fostering for over a year now and thought I would take this opportunity to talk about my fostering experiences over the past year.

I have always wanted to foster cats but I never took any action to do so because it wasn’t a stable time in my life. I was in college, I was moving every year, and I didn’t have a stable job. My last week of school I saw a post on facebook from the Humane Society. They were looking for a foster home for a mother and her two kittens. I felt that the stars had all aligned now that I had an apartment with a spare bedroom, I was graduating and looking for full time jobs. This was the time! I decided to call and inquire about fostering. Calling to inquire turned into picking up the mother and two kittens a mere three days later.

I fostered the mother, Oleta and her two kittens, Cracker and Crocker for a few months. The kittens got adopted once they were weened off of Oleta. Though the kittens were adorable, it wasn’t difficult adopting them out because they were so young. They loved everyone that walked into the room. I knew they wouldn’t be sad to leave.

Oleta was a two year old, ferral cat. She was extremely shy and scared of people. My boyfriend and I had to work very hard to socialize her. It took her months to be comfortable with us petting her. I thought about keeping Oleta a lot. I knew that it was better to adopt her out so I could continue fostering and also my cat despises other cats. I bonded so much with Oleta. This cat that was absolutely terrified of people was now following me around my apartment, screaming for my attention, banging on my bedroom door at night to cuddle, and laying in my lap. An old co-worker of mine saw my post about Oleta on FaceBook, she wanted to come see her. She came to visit her and it was love at first sight. She adopted her a few weeks later! This made me extremely happy because it was someone I knew and trusted and I knew Oleta would be well taken care of. It was still very difficult to hand her over. I missed Oleta for weeks. It took Oleta a few months to be comfortable and outgoing in her new home. She hid in the basement for a few weeks. Now I hear happy updates that Oleta runs around the house meowing for attention and sleeps on the bed. This is amazing because this was a cat that rolled up in a ball in a corner and shook with fear when someone walked into the room. It makes me very happy that Oleta found such a loving home.

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One day I was in the kitchen and saw a black cat out of the window. I looked out the door and called to it. This cat ran right past me into my apartment! When I followed her, I found her in the living room, laying on the couch giving herself a bath! Selena was a stray black cat that was sick and had a broken tail. When Selena sneezed a bunch of yellow mucus came out of her nose. She did not seem to be in pain from her broken tail. Luckily the local shelter was able to take her in and fix her up. It was difficult giving up Selena. We formed a bond right away. She thought my home was her home. She loved being kissed and cuddled. I wanted to keep her very badly. Selena was put up for adoption at PetSmart. She was adopted right away.

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My family feed stray cats that live around their house. There was a mother and her two kittens living in their back yard. They were very afraid of people but came everyday for food. My family was not able to pet them. I had the opportunity over Christmas when I was visiting them to catch the kittens (my dad did the catching) and take them home with me, so I did just that. Scooter and Sapphire were timid and afraid of people. It took weeks for the kitties to warm up to us. Scooter warmed up a lot quicker than Sapphire. She chirped constantly to get pet and she discovered that she loved being kissed on the head. Though Sapphire loved being pet, he was terrified each time a hand came near him. Once the hand touched him he realized it made him happy. We had Scooter and Sapphire for a few months before they were socialized. Putting Sapphire and Scooter up for adoption hit me the hardest. I bonded with them more than I had bonded with the other fosters. They were my babies. I spent every single day with them. I watched them grow and become outgoing and happy. One day I saw a friend’s status that he was looking for two kittens. It was fate! I messaged him with pictures and videos of Sapphire and Scooter. He spoke with his family and they ultimately decided to take them. My boyfriend and I drove them to him after a few weeks due to Scooter needing time to heal from being spayed. After we dropped Sapphire and Scooter off I broke down crying. I think I cried the whole way home. I continued to cry for the next few days. This adoption hit me hard. I think this was also difficult for me because I knew how terrified Sapphire and Scooter would be. I knew that they thought I was their mom. I couldn’t help but think they thought I gave them up and that I didn’t love them. These thoughts wouldn’t leave my head. Scooter and Sapphire took a few weeks to adjust to their new home. I get happy updates via pictures and videos from their adopter. I still miss them a lot.

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I volunteer at a cat shelter on Saturdays. This cat shelter only takes in strays and unwanted cats on Wednesdays. Many people are not aware of this. Often times on Saturdays people bring in their unwanted pets and strays. A few times I have been there and decided to take these cats home until Wednesday.

Dandelion was found in the middle of the street by a lady walking her dog on her lunch break. She walked Dandelion over to the shelter in her hand. Dandelion was so sweet. She loved to cuddle and nestle her head into my hair and neck.She went to the shelter and went straight to another foster home until she is ready to be adopted.

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These four kitties were dropped off at someone’s house out in the country. The kind man and woman brought them into the shelter. I had them for a few days. They were very playful! They weren’t as affectionate as Dandelion was. The one brownish one was the most cuddly.

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Snowball’s story: I saw a post on a garage sale page about a “free cat”. Many people began verbally attacking the woman for giving away this cat when she clearly had kittens recently. The woman explained that the cat has been with them more than a day and they looked for the kittens everywhere. They believe that the cat was dumped by their house. They asked people in the neighborhood about the cat, no one had seen her before. She wanted to leave the cat in her backyard with a bed and food but to make matters worse, their neighbor threatened to kill the cat if they did not get rid of it (Shared backyard). Fearing for the cat’s safety and well-being, the woman called numerous shelters but they were all closed due to it being memorial day weekend. The woman called the police and animal control. They were no help. The woman could not take the cat in because her girlfriend is highly allergic to cats. This woman was trying her hardest to help this cat but didn’t know what to do. She took to FaceBook to try and find this cat a home only to be verbally attacked by strangers. I messaged the woman directly to see what I could do to help. After messaging with her back and forth my boyfriend and I went to go pick up Snowball. We decided to keep her for a few days until we could take her into the shelter on Wednesday. Snowball was deaf but had a very loud personality. She loved cuddling. She chirped every time someone even looked her way. Snowball was seen by the vet the day the shelter took her in to ensure there are no complications due to her lack of feeding kittens though she is ready to feed them. Picking up Snowball was a difficult decision to make because I know somewhere out there are kittens without their mother. It is unknown whether the kittens were dead or alive, taken by someone or just abandoned by Snowball. I didn’t know where her kittens were, I did not know about their well-being, what I did know was that Snowball’s life was being threatened by someone. This is what I had to go on when making my decision. 

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Scooter and Sapphire were the only cats we fostered without the assistance of a shelter. This was very difficult financially. We had to pay for all of their vet bills, food, toys, and litter ourselves. The shelters assisted with the other fosters. They provided all of the supplies and the medical care. All it took us was the time to get them back and forth to the vet if they ever became sick and to the shelter to be adopted out.

In just about a year we have fostered 14 cats. Each one with their own unique story, background, and personality. I loved every single one of these cats and it was difficult to see each one go. I do not know where all of them are or how they are doing but I know I helped them in my short amount of time with them.

Though I love dogs as well, I have chosen to only foster cats because I do not have the time and dedication it takes to care for a dog or train a dog. I work full time and have a busy social life. I am also away most weekends. Cats are self sufficient enough to leave alone for a few days with a pet sitter checking in.

Because we are going to continue fostering cats, we chose to set up an official foster room in our apartment. We will do so in our future apartments/houses as well. We were able to set up this room with the help of others. We set up a gofundme account and received generous donations from kind people with big hearts! http://www.gofundme.com/fostercatroom

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Fostering can be very difficult financially and emotionally. Becoming attached to a cat only to send it off to live with someone else can be heartbreaking. Fostering can be extremely stressful when there is a house full of cats screaming, demanding attention all at once…and they are all screaming from separate rooms because they hate each other or because you don’t want to spread unknown diseases to your own cat. Fostering can be stressful when you need to be at work but a cat is sick and throwing up and needs to go to the vet right away. Fostering is tiring when you have to move your refrigerator to get a terrified cat you have been working hard to socialize. Fostering is exhausting when you are kept up all night by a cat screaming from the other room for attention. Fostering can be stressful when you have plans with friends all day but your foster cat rips open her stitches and needs to be taken to the vet that is located 45 minutes away. Though fostering can be a royal pain in the ass and makes me want to cry from frustration sometimes, I love it and will foster for as long as I live. Fostering is amazing when you work hard to socialize a cat for weeks or months and get texts or emails letting you know how well the cat is doing in their new home. Fostering is great when you learn that all the kittens you fostered have been spayed/neutered. Fostering is awesome when you get a confirmation that your foster baby is being adopted! I highly recommend it to anyone that has ever thought about it. It’s a great way to help animals and your local shelters!

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Find Jerry and Tigger a Home

Jerry is a beautiful, long haired black cat. He is six years old. He loves giving kisses on your nose and chin.

Tigger is an adorable, short hair orange cat. He is relaxed and chill. He loves to lay in his bed. Tigger is 8 years old.

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Jerry and Tigger are the best of friends. They cuddle together almost everyday. They have a strong bond and something very sad in common, both Jerry and Tigger have been in the shelter their entire lives.

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Jerry (right) pictured with his other best buddy, Kovu

Neither cat has ever known the joy or comfort of their own home. They both came into the shelter as kittens and have never been adopted. Neither cat has ever had their very own human friend. While both Jerry and Tigger are the nicest, sweetest cats you can imagine, they both get overlooked because they are shy. Not only is Jerry shy but he is also long haired, old, and black. He has everything against him. Everyday he lays on a high shelf. To pet Jerry, one has to go out of their way by climbing up on a chair to pet him. Not very many people do that. Tigger is old and shy. Many people pass him up for the young and playful kitteis. Though beautiful, Tigger doesn’t stick out too much in comparison.

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Jerry and Tigger are both located at Animal Care Council.

Address: 131 Washington Ave, Endicott, NY 13760
Please help #findjerryandtiggerahome by passing this on.
And please remember #adoptdontshop and when you go into the shelter, remember our shy and older feline and canine friends. They deserve a home and love just as much as a younger, playful kitty or pup.
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Consent: Not actually that complicated

Consent explained by tea. I absolutely love this! What a clear, easy way to understand consent!

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A short one today as my life is currently very complicated and conspiring against my preference to spend all of my days working out what to blog. But do you know what isn’t complicated?

Consent.

It’s been much discussed recently; what with college campuses bringing in Affirmative Consent rules, and with the film of the book that managed to make lack of consent look sexy raking it in at the box office. You may not know this, but in the UK we more or less have something similar to ‘affirmative consent’ already. It’s how Ched Evans was convicted while his co-defendant was not – and is along the lines of whether the defendant had a reasonable belief that the alleged victim consented. From the court documents it appears that while the jury felt that it was reasonable to believe that the victim had consented to intercourse with the co-defendant, it…

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My Trip to Costa Rica

Costa Rica was an absolute dream. I loved it so much. I knew I would like it but I didn’t realize how much I would love it. I loved everything about it, the food, the people, the weather, the scenery, the intimacy, the animals…everything! Lets break this trip down. (see bottom of page for Itinerary)

Communication:

I do not speak Spanish well at all. I know a few words here and there. I used the free app Duolingo to learn basic Spanish before I went. This was actually very helpful. I experienced a good mix of people knowing English and not knowing English. Most of the people we interacted with did have basic English words down and I had basic Spanish words down. This was enough to get me through without too much trouble. There were hiccups here and there but nothing major or damaging. What was consistent though was that everyone was extremely nice and even though we did not speak the same language, I found that anyone I met or interacted with was friendly, sweet and willing to help out with directions, etc… as best they could.

Transportation:

My boyfriend and I decided not to rent a car and instead use a car service that drives you from point A to your far away destination of point B. They come and pick you up and will drive you to your next destination, even if it is 6 hours away and it is usually around $50. It was so worth it to not deal with the stress of directions and the bumpy roads which would have made me nervous to drive on. There were a few times that I feared for my life because the driver was talking on his phone or not looking at the road but ya know…you get what you pay for I suppose. The two car services we used were: Desafio & Montezuma Expeditions

Food:

As for the food, I have been trying to go vegetarian and I thought this would be an issue in another country but it wasn’t at all. I did have chicken here and there but there was endless supply of veggies and rice and a bunch of yummy other things. The plantains were out of this world and I swear Costa Rica has the best tomatoes I have ever tasted in my life. Look at all of this deliciousness! Everything tasted so fresh. I miss the food a lot.

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First few days of the trip: Cabuya

For the first part of our trip we went to Cabuya, which was a 6 hour drive from San Jose airport. We went there for a wedding. I absolutely loved it. Cabuya had so much to offer…so much so, that I did not even get to do everything I wanted to! We stayed at my friend’s mother’s spa, Gentle Earth Retreats. This place was incredibly beautiful. I highly recommend it! My friend’s wedding took place on this property. It was a dream location for a wedding.

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This is the adorable place we ate at each morning. It was a 5 minute walk from Gentle Earth Retreats.

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The woman that helped us each morning was so sweet and the food was amazing.

The first big adventure we took in Cabuya was snorkeling on Toruga Island. Now this was a fantastic deal we got through Gentle Earth Retreats. We spent about 2 hours on a boat to the island. Went snorkeling for a few hours, spent a few hours lounging on the island with food provided for us and then the boat ride back. This was only $45!!! Incredible deal. This was one of my favorite days in Costa Rica.

(Hard to see but we saw a whale shark!)

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I also highly recommend hiking at Cabo Blanco. We hiked 2 hours through a beautiful, monkey filled jungle to a beach. Because it is a 2 hour hike to the beach, there were barely any people on it. Warning, the 2 hour hike back after sitting in the sun for hours was pretty horrific. There were times I didn’t think I was going to make it but just pack plenty of water and snacks and suffer through because trust me, it was SO worth it!

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Next stop…Monteverde!

We took Montezuma expeditions from Cabuya to Moneverde. This was about a 5-6 hour drive. They picked us up right from Gentle Earth Retreats and dropped us off at our adorable hotel, Las Orquideas. We only stayed here one night. It cost us around $50 for the night. The two women that worked there did not speak good English and I do not speak good Spanish but that did not stop them from helping us out and trying to talk with us. They were super sweet and they cooked us a dynamite breakfast. There was a fantastic view in the back but it was so windy and up high that I was a little scared!

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After checking into our hotel we went zip lining through Sky Trek. We had previously made a reservation. I was very afraid and was tearing up but our two guides were so nice and comforting. One of them told me to just try it once with him and if I didn’t think I could do it they would let me down at the next stop. I got on the zip line with him and he encouraged me to scream and just let it all out. I was screaming so much that I ended up laughing a lot. I ended up sticking with it and made some cool friends! (We still keep in touch on FaceBook!)

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After Zip Lining we walked around on a path in the forest. It was beautiful. I saw so many gorgeous flowers and we heard a lot of birds chirping.

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After Zip Lining we walked to town from our Hotel. We took a flashlight which was smart because it was very dark. It was only around a 10 minute walk. We went into cool shops and bought some souvenirs. We ate dinner at this amazing tree top restaurant. The food and atmosphere were amazing.

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After our adventures in Monteverde, we were off to La Fortuna. We used Desafio ‘s taxi-boat-taxi service to get to La Fortuna. Not only was it easy and convenient for us but it was a fun experience in itself. We had a lot of fun on the boat and we caught such gorgeous views the entire way.

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Baldi Springs was an absolute dream. We had arrived on a Sunday so we pretty much had the entire place to ourselves. While Baldi Springs was super expensive ($200 per night! Yikes!) we only stayed one night. We checked in right at  check in time and checked out the next day as late as possible to get our money’s worth. Breakfast was complimentary and it was delicious. Other meals were very reasonably priced. I was scared they would be super expensive but they weren’t. Phew!

This was the end of our trip. By this time we were exhausted. We had plans to venture out and experience the natural hot springs around this area…they are everywhere! We also wanted to do a walking tour up Arenal Volcano but we were pooped! We ended up just lounging by the different pools all day at Baldi and going on the slides repeatedly, which was so much fun! I wish we had more time to spend in this area. We did not get to explore which I would have liked to do. Baldi Springs truly was a paradise. I wish I could live there. I highly recommend it!

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This was my first travel post. I hope you enjoyed it! There will be more to come ❤

Costa Rica Itinerary:

Day 1:

  • Flight to San Jose
  • 6 hour drive to Gentle Earth Retreats. Cabuya, Costa Rica

Day 2:

  • Tortuga Island tour-9am-3pm
  • Bar in Montezuma

Day 3:

  • Cabo Blanco hike

Day 4:

  • Cabuya to Monteverde: 5.5 hours by Montezuma Expeditions
  • Check in: Las Orquideas
  • Zip lining and hiking at Monteverde Cloud forest:
    • 1pm -5:30pm skytrek+skytram+skywalk $96 including transport

Day 5:

  • On our way to La Fortuna: Baldi Springs
  • Taxi-boat-taxi $32 (3 hrs) desafio
  • Check in: baldi hot springs www.baldihotsprings.cr

Day 6:

  • La Fortuna to San Jose by shuttle $50
  • check in-http://www.santamariacr.com/
    • St. 2 and Ave. 4 50mts west from Popular BanK, Downtown Alajuela, Next to Juan Santamaria Park. Costa Rica Calle 2 & Ave 4. 50 mts Oeste del Banco Popular. Alajuela Centro, al lado del Parque Juan Santamaría. Alajuela Centro, Costa Rica.

Emergency Info:

The telephone number of the Quepos Hospital is tel. 2777-0922. In the event of an emergency, you can also call the Cruz Roja (Red Cross; tel. 2777-0116). For the local police, call tel. 2777-1511. USA Embassy: 2220-3939; carretera a pavas

San Jose:

  • police 2222-9330
  • clinica biblica – 2522-1000  – top private clinic in downtown area
  • hospital la catolica – 2246-3000  – pricey private clinic northeast of downtown
  • hospital san juan de dios – 2257-6282 – free public hospital